Posing good questions is harder than it might seem, and I say this not simply by way of explaining why I asked the wrong question at the dance. It’s hard because asking good questions requires you to see past the easy answers and to focus instead on the difficult, the tricky, the mysterious, the awkward, and sometimes the painful. But I suspect that you and your listeners will be richer for the effort, and that this will be in both your professional and your personal life.

…Good friends, as you know, ask great questions, as do good parents. They pose questions that, just in the asking, show how much they know and care about you. They ask questions that make you pause, that make you think, that provoke honesty, and that invite a deeper connection. They ask questions that don’t so much demand an answer as prove irresistible. My simple point is that posing irresistible questions is an art worth cultivating.

– Dean James Ryan on Good Questions

What are the 10 essential questions in parenting?

Q1: When I look at my seed (child), who do I see?

Q2: What is the quality of the soil (parenting practices) for the seed to grow?

Q3: What is the quality of the air (environment of the child: family, home, friends, school, community…) the tree is growing within?

Q4: What space & time (involvement, structure, clarity, & pace) is there for the tree to flourish? 

Q5: Does it have enough sunlight (gratitude for life in everyday living: kindness, love, happiness, & joy) to grow?

Q6: Where is the source of the water, how often the tree is watered, & how clean is the water (Bible, or Torah,  or life’s wisdom & values, prayer, hope, faith, love)?

Q7: How am I making sure the tree has deep roots to stand still and strong (growing compassion, confidence, honor & resilience)?

Q8: How am I mastering my gardening (parenting) skills?

Q9: How do I approach unpredictable (unknown unknowns in life) weather conditions?

Q10: What legacy am I leaving behind for the generations to follow? What truly matters?

Written by Anna A. Block

Anna A Block is an educator, entrepreneur, and a mother of three little girls ages 7 and under. She believes in a beauty and power of ordinary, daily mundane. It is where the magic happens and memories created for a lifetime. And, it takes only 20 minutes of "pure" time to tell a story, play, read, talk, make or learn something together. Anna is fluent in English, Ukrainian, Russian, and is learning Hebrew. To know more about Anna, visit her website: AnnaABlock.com or read about her on About Us page.


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